Copyright 2008-2017 Amy Lyon. All Rights Reserved Back to Amy Lyon Home What to write in a sympathy card Sympathy cards traditionally offer touching phrases and gentle prose designed to bring comfort to bereaved individuals who are faced with the loss of a loved one. Yet, most of us feel a sense of urgency to add a little something before we sign our names. But what do you say? Here are some ideas: “A moment in our arms, forever in our hearts. We will never forget (name).” “I shall think of him/her as smiling, for what else would one do in the presence of God?” “I have strength to give in your time of weakness. Please let me know what I can do. I want to be there for you.” “I have no vocabulary to express my sadness and sympathy. Words fail me. Please know that I wish you and your family strength.” Or “Please know that I am praying for the strength of you and your family.” If you had the opportunity to meet the individual, write a memory. The words may be bittersweet, but they will undoubtedly be cherished. If you have a favorite Bible verse, you might include it. Understand, though, that in a time of loss, many people struggle with their spiritual relationships. Remember Our Loved Ones View Memorial Ideas to keep your loved one’s memory alive MY STORY Our beautiful daughter, Isabelle, passed away from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) in 2007. The road to this point has been paved with stops and starts, but the support our family has received has been a blessing. Specifically, my husband and I attended a support group at Children’s Hospital in Minneapolis where we met the greatest group of people we’d wished we’d never known. Their stories were honest and heart-wrenching, but in them we found the courage to grieve. I have written a memoir entitled, “Only God Knows Why” in hopes that my story can be a comfort to other families as they take this journey. Isabelle Leeann Lyon 3/27/07 - 7/26/07 WHAT CAN YOU DO? If you know someone who has lost a loved one, here are some things you can do: Send flowers on the birthday and/or Heaven Day. Use the loved one’s name. (i.e. Remembering (name) on this special day) Leave a microwavable dish or a cooler of food for the family. Offer a blank book or journal for the individual to write thoughts and feelings. Journaling can be very therapeutic. Give a gift card to a local garden center, so the family can buy flowers or a tree in their loved one’s memory Request a date, then bring in a group of people to clean the house or do yard work Plan a fundraiser at a local Legion, VFW or restaurant to raise money to help the family with medical bills, funeral costs and household expenses. Purchase a star in the individual’s memory: starregistry.com Purchase a tree in the loved one’s memory: thetreesremember.com Acknowledge the loved one in conversations and include his/her name in holiday cards. Direct your loved one to the resources page, which provides helpful websites, online support communities and memorial ideas.